The process of Grieving

How do you get over grief?

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What are methods for you to communicate and express your inner demons so they don't manifest into physiological stressors?

It's funny:  I was chatting with a new student in my yoga class last week about holding onto grief and releasing the areas that are so hard to stretch out - such as the back of the rotator cuff, wedged right beneath the scapula and how much tension we allow ourselves to grip onto in our daily lives. Fast forward a week later, and I am definitely feeling those same areas become sticky - every time I wake up I feel a huge lump in the back of thoracic spine on the right side. Indicative of shortage of breath maybe? 


When my grandfather passed away last week, there were mixed emotions and symptoms of nausea, despair, guilt, ignorance, and utmost disgust projected towards myself and my family members. Understanding that the process of grieving is not a short one and affects each family member requires lots of patience and space to allow it to emerge.

 

The weeks leading up to him being hospitalized, however, I could see the onset of his death - it did not come of a surprise, and this is perhaps what most inspired me to create Samsara, the rebirth, the simple letting go process of a physical being or idea, and transforming it into a more beautiful and attainable quality in the world. 

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To watch someone suffer for over three years is an inescapable feeling, to watch someone die day by day is also a path to unveiling the most vulnerable of thoughts and feelings. To teeter totter on the steps of life and death is definitely not something someone should ever have to encounter on a daily basis - as much as we may glorify and talk about someone's afterlife in the spiritual or religious sense and send them to a higher kingdom - realistically, all that we witness on the human Earth, is decay, decline, and literally, blood, sweat, and tears. 

So again, I ask you, how do you get over grief?

Samsara: the rebirth, the simple letting go process of a physical being or idea, and transforming it into a more beautiful and attainable quality in the world.